Children need someone in their corner, especially in the early years. For most children that someone is a parent. When you support your child at the right moments, you strengthen your relationship and help them learn to cope on their own.
When they are sad
Whether a game went wrong or you said no to something they wanted, sadness is real to your child. Name the feeling (“You’re disappointed”), stay close and wait before offering solutions. You can keep the rule and still comfort the child.
When they are afraid
Fears of the dark, new places or loud noises are common. Don’t laugh at the fear or force your child to face it all at once. Take small steps together and praise every bit of courage.
When they try something new
A new school, a new skill or a new group of friends can feel big. Show interest, ask how it went and celebrate effort. If it didn’t go well, help them plan what to try next time.
When they make a mistake
Separate the child from the behaviour: “That was not kind” rather than “You are naughty”. Help them repair what went wrong, such as apologising or fixing what they broke, and then move on.
Use play to talk about feelings
Many children find it easier to talk about emotions through a game. The Puzzle of Emotions invites them to recognise faces and feelings, and role-play costumes such as Fancy Dress – Doctor Green let them act out situations that worry them, like visiting the doctor.
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